Ashley Hebert came in third for Brad Womack’s heart on the last season of The Bachelor. But that just opened the door for her to become the new Bachelorette. In a recent conference call interview she talked about the decision to do the show and whether or not she’s ready to walk down the aisle.
When Ashley was contacted about being the star of the show she initially jumped on board, but then had to really ponder the option. She recalled, “I will tell you what I went through when I was approached about it. I thought, ‘No question on my mind absolutely.’ I would do it if everything worked out and then I started to question, ‘Am I strong enough for this? Am I at a good place in my life with this? I have to take more time off from school.’ I just weigh the pros and cons and then at the end of the day, I realize that I wanted to do it and the pros outweigh the cons.”
One of the cons was leaving dental school without a diploma. She explained where she was at with her studies when she left to do The Bachelorette. “I did take off from school. I am probably just a few months behind with my requirements but I actually graduated technically two days ago… I am going to be making up the time that I lost this summer and then I will have my diploma and be ready to go.”
But clearly the pros outweighed the cons and Ashley signed on to the show. And even though she was nervous going into the show she didn’t seek advice from any former Bachelor or Bachelorette contestants, she did give herself a little guidance, “I got advice from my past self — to make sure that I left without any regrets. I know that’s cliché but it's really what I went into it thinking.”
She revealed what she wants in a perfect mate. “I am looking for somebody that I feel I can trust, somebody that’s really loyal and a family man… But I just want somebody that makes me feel. I [live] my life off of my gut and intuition and I have learned to trust that. And I think it has led me to some really great places. So I am just looking for somebody that makes me feel.”
But admitting that building walls was a big issue for her, didn’t mean that they were less difficult to scale. Ashley told us, “It was not easy I will tell you that. But I went into it saying, ‘I don’t want to leave with any regrets, if I do fall in love…’ I am going just to put it all out there… I learned a lot from Brad's season.”
And she’s discovered even more about herself after a season as The Bachelorette. She confessed, “I learned that I do not like to break up with people and I have a very, very hard time with it both emotionally and have a physical reaction to it. That’s what I learned.”
Yet she had an unexpected revelation about how she personally had grown on the series. She remarked, “I surprised myself with overcoming some of the fears that I had and some of the insecurities that I had.”
Herbert also realized that she was at a pivotal moment in her own journey. “I reached a point in my life where I knew that if I were to meet the right person, I would be ready, but only if I were to meet somebody that made me feel like I was ready. But going into this, I definitely have the mindset that I have my career in place, I feel really good. I was wearing that on a personal level. I feel like I have a lot to offer and I have a great mindset about being in a committed relationship. So going into it I felt like I was prepared on the outside, but only if I were to meet the right guy.”
Tune in to see if Ashley meets her match when the new season of The Bachelorette premieres tonight at 9 p.m. EST/8 p.m. Central on ABC.