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As sisters we sat riveted
to our TV sets during The Bachelorette
finale as Ashley Hebert's sister Chrystie Cobb nearly derailed the show's fairy
tale romance. This season's hopeful bride-to-be introduced her two final
suitors to her family. While Chrystie clicked with Ben, she wasn't so sure
about J.P. Rosenbaum. Not only did she make it clear to her sister but she
confronted her suitor, who it turns out was Ashley's top choice. In a recent
conference call interview Ashley and J.P. talked about the impact of Chrystie's
criticism.
Ashley addressed the fact
that Chrystie felt that her sister was too much for J.P. and that they didn't
seem like a good fit. She remarked, "What people think about relationships
and who [is right] for them, they immediately think of the person that is
similar to them. And for me I think I need somebody to balance me. I'm
definitely high-energy, I'm silly and goofy and I just need somebody to balance
that out… J.P. is definitely more reserved. He is sincere. He's quiet. But I
bring the fun out of him."
Rosenbaum agreed,
"Absolutely. I think we complement each other just so well and that is
what makes it work." Ashley added, "So even though we are different,
we have this relationship where we have an equal mixture of fun and seriousness
and romance… We just have everything that you probably want in a relationship
and we each bring a little bit of that to it."
Unfortunately when Chrystie
saw J.P. and Ashley together in Fiji, she didn't pick up on that vibe. Hebert
was disappointed in her sister's reaction. She recalled, "I wanted my
family to really love him as much as I did. But I think, for me, it was at that
point in time I had been away from my family and friends for so long, and I
just wanted somebody to be there for me… and I felt so alone. I felt alone
through a lot of this and I wanted her there to make me feel cool again. And
instead it almost was like she pushed me farther away by saying that."
But Ashley admitted that in
the long run that distance might have been just what she needed. She confessed,
"It allowed me to really be alone and make that final decision based on
what I was feeling. So maybe it was the best thing."
For a good bit of the
season finale it certainly didn't seem like a good turn of events for J.P. He
left the family visit hurt and angry. But he insisted that it had no impact on
his plans to pop the question. "Nothing that happened between me and her
sister had any influence on my decision to propose. I always knew that I was
going to propose. I guess pretty much two to three weeks prior, I knew it was
going to happen. So I was just afraid that her sister's comments and opinions
would influence the way she felt about me, but I was hoping that she would trust
her gut, trust her heart, and not really listen to her sister and it turned out
all right."
While Ashley seemed to be
thrown into a bit of turmoil on the episode, she revealed that her sister's
opinion didn't really matter when all was said and done. She commented,
"To be honest, I knew that I would follow my own gut and I would not let
anyone else influence me. And that is what I loved about this whole journey is
I have got to trust myself. Now the truth is I knew my sister was being tough.
And I knew that she was so stubborn that she would never take it back even if
she had to change her heart. And I knew that she would grow to love him. And
once she saw us together, I had no doubt that she would see what I feel, and
things would be all right and things would be great, and actually they
are."
But first Ashley and her
sister had to mend their fences. She recounted, "We actually never
resolved it in Fiji. She left and it was still unresolved. Then I think it was
when we got home that we talked about it a little bit. But it went unresolved
for a while until she started watching the show air. And then she called me up
and said, 'I am so sorry, I completely see it now, I was too quick to judge.' So
it took a little while that she came around."
Hebert added, "They
are close now and they actually joke about it. So all is well." J.P.
confirmed that the hatchet has been buried. He explained, "The first time
we got to speak after we got back from Fiji, Chrystie was so sweet, so
supportive. It was a different person I was talking to and now it is ancient
history. We are close."
The Bachelorette is over for the season, but tune in to Bachelor Pad every Monday night at 8
p.m. EST/7 p.m. Central on ABC.
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